Saturday, September 18, 2010


A friend and I had a discussion the other day about labels.

I want to challenge adults to refrain from using the phrase "best" when referring to a friend.

It's simple really.  Anytime you refer to an individual as a best friend you are complimenting that one friend and isolating everyone else that loves you.  In a sense, you are telling them that they aren't as important to you as this one charmed individual.

Not to mention, what if your "best" friend doesn't feel the same in return.  We've all been in relationships that at some point in time we've realized that the relationship was a bit one sided and we were more committed than they were.  Labeling him or her your "best" may isolate them as they realize the imbalance in affection.

In a marriage relationship our spouses need to be our #1, our "go to" guy (or gal).  When I truly evaluate the relationships in my life, Jared is my closest confidant and friend. 

There are so many people out there that I cherish, love and wouldn't want to live without. 

Some I've known for years and feel a long time commitment and bond to, like family.

Some I've known of for years but am just scratching the surface of who they are and how special God created them.  I'm in the beginning phase and learning what a blessing they are to my life.

Some I admire from afar and hope to get to know better as time progresses.

Relationships ebb and flow.  God grants His body for comfort, friendship, camaraderie, and even to exhort in love. 

As soon as I start to think of one characteristic that I just love in one friend, granting them "best" status, I think of another friend and something about them that I just cherish.  Everyone that God has granted us has a special place in our lives.  There is a Jared sized hole in my heart that can only be filled by him just as there is a special place just for you.

I'll tell you what I told my friend.  Even if I spent all day every day with someone else...I would still miss you.  No one can fill your role in my life but you!

1 comment:

alanna said...

I'm reminded of an email that brings to light that people are in our lives for different reasons and for different lengths of time. We need them all just as much as the next - they help shape up into who God desires us to be. They are all beautiful gifts along the road of life. :o)